Connection

What does ‘connection’ mean to you? To most people it means two things: wi-fi and social media.

But — what if the question was reframed as “What does ‘connection’ mean to you, as a human being?”

As we’re becoming more connected through social media and the world of ‘digital experiences’, it seems we’re becoming more disconnected at a human level.

Note: this post is also on LinkedIn — please read and interact here if you use this platform :-)

A personal reflection, for context…

Like countless others, I’ve been looking for work over the past few months. It’s tougher than ever to get noticed right now, let alone get picked to join someone’s team. It’s an employer’s market, making ‘profile’ and ‘network’ top priorities.

As part of my search, I’m seeing people spend countless hours on LinkedIn each day. The noise is louder than ever, with everyone vying for attention. I don’t enjoy LinkedIn, in fact it brings out some of the worst in me, critiquing other people and self-comparing. I guess this is human nature, a natural response to competition.

The more time I spend on LinkedIn, the more unfulfilled, dissatisfied and off-centre I generally end up feeling.

Why?

I’ve always been introspective. Those who know me will testify to my borderline obsession with human nature and the ‘human state’. I’m always questioning who we are and why we’re here — seeking out ‘the real person’ in my interactions with others. 

The challenge with platforms like LinkedIn is they encourage you to label yourself, to vie for attention and compare yourself to others. In fact, you’re rewarded for this. But, what you’re seeing of others is rarely the full picture of who they truly are — it’s how they want to be seen.

Hey, you already know all this. But you have to comply, right? What other choice do you have? It’s a means to survive.

A few months ago I read the following quote (I can’t remember who it’s by):

“Entering the neutral zone can allow you to reconnect with who you really are, for a while detaching yourself from the professional or even your “social” persona which shapes a lot of who we are, so much that we find it hard sometimes to exist outside “what we do”, “who we are expected to be” and not just “who we deeply are”.”

Many people are in this place right now, especially given the loss of jobs. And, for most people it’s a (very) frightening place to be. “Who am I without a job, without a title?” “What do people *really* think of me, and how do I regain some sense of security?” “Where and how do I fit in?” etc.

Many people just aren’t comfortable being in a place where they have to self-reflect and consider life at a deeper, human level.

You are uniquely designed

A friend of mine, Matt Fox, produces an excellent podcast called Heart of Dad. His most recent guest talked about how we’re all uniquely designed for something. I find this very exciting to consider. We all have a unique gift to bring to the world and those around us.

But, discovering your gift(s) requires space and time, introspection, and—in my experience—the courage to accept a level of discomfort and to swim against the tide.

Being human

I have a vision called MakeLifeClick to see a community built around the basics of what it means to be human — to awaken a renewed sense of connection, direction and purpose, putting others first, with everyone role-modelling ‘strength through vulnerability’.

Launch was paused back in June, since which I’ve received lots of encouragement to get things moving. Thank you to everyone who’s committed to being a part of this.

A video to finish

I’d like to share a video someone sent me yesterday. For me, this is a beautiful example of vulnerability — the willingness to be brave and lay bare your humanity.

6 Years Sober Today

1:34 – 2:08 perfectly depicts the ‘why’ of MakeLifeClick, the way he describes having a ‘hole in the soul’…

Get in touch?

Fancy a coffee and a chat about people, purpose, vision, business ideas/opportunities and perhaps even life in general? Drop me a message — you never know, we may have a few things in common…