What makes you unique? How does this influence your life?

Big things to think about.

Questions such as “tell me about yourself” and “why you?” are a daily occurrence for many right now, an unavoidable part of the job search, of striving to get noticed amongst the growing crowd.

Terms like ‘influencer’ and ‘personal brand’ are on the rise. The use of social media continues to explode, particularly platforms like Instagram and TikTok, where ‘being seen’ and ‘finding validation’ are arguably the primary objectives.

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Each to their own

We’re all adept—in our own way—at presenting the person we believe we need to be. Life’s a game of survival, right? We find what works for us, what gets us noticed, enables us to make money etc.

But, it’s rarely the full picture.

To use the iceberg analogy, what others see is often just the tip, whereas the ‘bigger you’ remains hidden.


And so there’s this tension in your life — an awareness of what the world demands of the ‘exterior you’ in order to fit in and survive, versus the whole you, everything that’s made you you in your life up to this point.

For some this will stir feelings of excitement — if only I could be the real me, show the world who I truly am! For others, this will surface things they’re not too comfortable with, places they’d rather not go.

What if?

What might happen if you opened up to the world as your whole self?

What if you made your decisions based on hope rather than fear?

These are big questions, ones I’ve asked a lot during these times of change.

Discovering purpose

Like most, I’ve watched a few TED talks in my time. I love watching ordinary people being brave and honest about life stuff, especially things we wouldn’t normally talk about.

One of these was on the subject of ‘discovering your purpose’, during which the presenter asked a simple set of questions. I’ve found these helpful in understanding what makes me uniquely me. Perhaps they’ll help you, too…

  1. What’s your name?
  2. What do you do — specifically, what is the one thing you feel supremely qualified to teach other people?
  3. Who do you do it for?
  4. What do they want or need that brings them to you?
  5. How do they change or transform as a result?

Reflections on purpose

It feels right to end with some special quotes from the late Chadwick Boseman, reflecting on the importance of purpose in life…

“Your very existence is wrapped up in the things you need to fulfil. Whatever you choose for a career path, remember the struggles along the way are only meant to shape you for your purpose.”

“When you are deciding on the next steps, next jobs, next careers, further education, you should rather find purpose than a job or a career. Purpose crosses disciplines. Purpose is an essential element of you.”

“I don’t know what your future is, but if you are willing to take the harder way, the more complicated one, the one with more failures at first than successes, the one that’s ultimately proven to have more victory, more glory, then you will not regret it. This is your time.”

“When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, ‘I used everything You gave me’.”

Taking the next step

I have a vision called MakeLifeClick, an open invitation to connect around the deeper questions and challenges of life that typically go unspoken; things that stop us taking that extra, purpose-filled, step.

Launch was paused back in June, since which I’ve received lots of encouragement to get things moving again. You can register your interest to be part of the preview here (foot of page), with more to follow later this month.

Get in touch?

Fancy a coffee and a chat about people, purpose, vision, business ideas/opportunities and perhaps even life in general? Drop me a message — you never know, we may have a few things in common…