It’s that time of year again here in the UK. The nights are drawing in. It’s getting colder.

The battle to resist switching the heating on has begun. Just one hour. That’s if you can remember how to operate that newfangled thermostat.

2020’s been extraordinary in the extreme. We want to move on, to keep going, to leave it behind us.

But what does it actually mean to ‘move on’?

How would you describe your relationship with social media?

How do your social networks make you feel about yourself and others?

What true, lasting value do you get from your time spent online?

These are questions I’ve asked many people over the past few months. The responses I get are generally along the lines of…

“I use social networks because I have to”

“Actually, I’m trying to reduce my social media time”

“Social media makes me judgemental towards others, which I don’t like”

“There’s too much noise”

“Too much quantity, not enough quality”

“I don’t know who to trust — the ‘likes’ and niceties don’t really mean anything anymore”

“The algorithms don’t work for me — I’m finding it increasingly difficult to find meaningful content”

“I don’t do social media”

“What do you want?”

Day one of a five day challenge.

OK? Next question…

“What do you *really* want — what’s the invisible voice behind your response to that first question saying?”

The example response for the first question was “I want more money”.

For the second it was “to be recognised” and “to escape the fear of needing”.